There was a classic show from the early 60s where a call would go out: Car 54. Where are you? I am not sure if any of you remember officers Toody and Muldoon. It’s one of those classic TV shows from a long time ago (even before me if you can believe it). However, as I was thinking about this show and its classic phrase…a question jumped into my mind. A challenge to myself and fathers everywhere. Where are you?!?
Are you engagued with your wife, sons, daughters and most importantly with God? Ae we putting all the passion into these relationships that we put into our pursuits of the world? So often we as fathers focus on the daily tasks. We all know what they are: job, security, finances, hobbies, and sports. We put our heart into our jobs and careers. Somewhere along the way it is really easy to become wrapped up in these and we begin to lose focus on the things that matter most: your God and your Family. It does not happen overnight. Often we never even see it coming and don’t realize it has. Like the song by Casting Crowns its a “Slow Fade”
It’s a slow fade when you give yourself away
It’s a slow fade when black and white have turned to gray
Thoughts invade, choices are made, a price will be paid
When you give yourself away
People never crumble in a day
Daddies never crumble in a day
Families never crumble in a day
Too often we see this in todays world. Fathers who are not enguaged with their families and their faith. It undermines the core of what God created as a mirror of our relationship with Christ. So again I ask you Fathers (and those that want to be). Where are you?
Husbands, do you love your wife as scripture calls on us to? Do we love her, respect, and care for her as we have been commanded? Scripture is crystal clear on our role as a husband.
“Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, haveing cleansed her by the washing of water with the word. , so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way, husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself” (Ephesians 5: 25-28)
“Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh” (Ephesians 5:31)
“It is not good that the man should be alone: I will make him a helper fit for him” (Genesis 2:18)
“This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of me. Therefore, a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” (Genesis 2:23-24)
With these words how can we do anything less than love the gift that God has blessed us with? Are we encouraging , strengthing, and loving her? Do we love her as we love ourselves and even more so, how Christ loved the church? Christ loved us to the point that he was willing to die for us. He loved us at at time when we were still his enemies. When we were still covered with the stain of sin. We were a people that had turned our backs on the Father. Yet he saw past all of our shortcomings and gave us his all. Are we willing to see past the shortcomings of our wives? To see the beauty that is in them. The love and the bond that was forged by our heavenly father. Take a moment from your day..give her a hug and a kiss and tell her how special she is….that she is truly a gift from God and then live the words.
When you took your vows you made a promise to love her in sickness and in health…the good times and the bad. Too often we find ourselves loving our wives only in the periods of good health and the happy times. However, the sickness and the bad times will come rolling down the path. When these challenges come there is a tendency to forget the vows we took before our loving God. A tendency to only want the good times. However husbands, that vow was for all the times. These are the times that we need to love our wives as Christ loved the church. As He loved his bride. It was not nails that held Christ to the cross. It was love. That is the kind of love we need for our wives and our families and our God. A pure sacraficial love. A love like Christ. A willingness to put her first. A willingness to sacrafice our needs and our wants for her. Are you willing. Are you prepared to follow in the footsteps of Christ and be the man he calls us to be.
Where are you?
To be continued…..